Saturday, September 05, 2009

Crossing the line

Being a guy married to the same woman for 20+ years would NOT make one an expert in women. However, you'd think it might make a person an expert in that woman. It does not. Rather, it is a constant learning process. Nonetheless, here is a lesson learned that should generalize.

Today I made the interesting observation regarding two argument scenarios. They are similar, but results are not. Scenario one: I tell my wife she is wrong about something and she knows she is right. Scenario two: I tell my wife she is wrong about something and she knows she is wrong, It may seem counter-intuitive (to me alone, perhaps) but scenario one is far better for the relationship than scenario two.

This shouldn't be a surprise to anyone willing to take the other's perspective. I know how much I hate it when my wife (hell, ANYONE) tells me I am wrong and I suddenly realize that they are correct that I am wrong. That really sucks. So the observation isn't so much about women, but about arguments.