Friday, August 15, 2014
Perhaps soon...
It is amazing how much death can suck the life out of a person... and their motivation to write certain types of blogs.
Over the past two years, every impulse I've had to write here was dark and depressing. I'd rather not do that - so those writings went elsewhere.
Soon... I think I will be (finally) adding a new entry. Not today (other than this "filler" bit), but soon.
"Soon," he says to the empty theater...
Monday, July 30, 2012
Marcy Flair
It was late afternoon and the room was mostly dark. The blinds were pulled so that only little beams of light stabbed the darkness here and there. Sitting in a chair in front of a small wooden desk, a little girl was hunched over a magnifying glass. Arts and crafts boxes surrounded her both on the floor as well as the periphery of her desktop. This was Marcy. She was almost fifteen years old. She loved sparkles of color, twinkles of rhinestones, and the precise edges along the facets of newly cut gemstones. She loved other things too. In fact, it was a testament to her creativity that Marcy had found a way to combine her loves.
Marcy squinted at her work. Pink sparkles surrounding a flat cat's-eye-blue plastic gem arranged like a constellation of beauty on a small triangular feather. She turned the otherwise white feather over, and blew gently on the afterfeather. Little wisps of powder-soft fingers waved at her nose. She smiled and arranged the feather on her desk, gem-side up next to a row of similarly adorned feathers, to let the glue dry undisturbed.
Next, Marcy reached for the glue gun, hot with a sticky trail of amber leaking from its nozzle. She pressed the trigger lightly to smear a narrow line of glue along the thin metal rod in front of her. It was just then that a flop of her bangs waggled down from her forehead and tried to play peek-a-boo with her eye. Bad timing! With a quick flick of her head, she tossed the curl to the top of her head long enough out of the way for her to quickly align a foil lightning bolt on the glue. She held it steady until the bright decoration adhered tightly despite the hot burning on her thumb where some of the glue had squished around to her skin.
Tiny creative fingers lifted the metal rod so that the slight bit of sunlight piercing the blinds could reflect off all of the foil lightning bolts decorating the titanium bar. Not quite satisfied, she held one end of the rod between her fingers so she could rotate the shaft more easily. Lifting an aerosol can she sprayed a puff of glue into the air, and then twirled the rod through it. Before the glue dried, she picked up a shaker of multi-colored sprinkles and shook tiny sparkles all over the now festive pole.
While these projects rested, Marcy turned her attention to the pink plastic handles she'd attached, each to one end of two solid aluminum bars. The bars were connected at the other end by a braided nylon and steel flex-cord. They looked so plain. Reaching under the desk, she pulled up a flimsy plastic shopping bag. Inside was a cardboard and cellophane package containing purple and red handlebar streamers. They were designed for bicycles, but they were going to work wonderfully for this project. She attached the streamers to the handles, as instructed in the directions, then modified them to better suit her needs. Hidden inside the streamers of one handle, she inserted a super-sized fishing hook designed to resemble something better suited to grappling. Once that was done, Marcy pulled open one of the drawers of the desk and carefully pulled out four long narrow razor blades. These were attached to a metal ring by small hoops that allowed the blades to move freely - much like the streamers. The metal ring was attached to the other pink handle so as to allow the razors to mingle with the streamers. She paused for a moment and wondered if the blades might eventually ruin the streamers. She made a note to herself to color the sides of the razors pink and maybe later simply replace all of the flimsy plastic with the thin slices of steel.
By now, the feathers and rods Marcy had been working on were ready to be assembled. She glued the feathers into the slots at the ends of the rods, and then carefully screwed in the arrow heads. She had quite a variety of arrow tips. The heavy bodkin tips were lightly dusted with glow-in-the-dark powder. The barbed tips were lightly sprayed with red paint, while the viper tips were dusted with orange day-glow paint. Marcy hefted one of the arrows in her hand. It held her only half-moon blade… just in case. Each of the arrows was carefully lowered into their slots in her home made quiver. She would know any of her arrows by the slightest touch of a feather.
Outside she heard some neighborhood children screaming as they danced through Mrs. Arnold's sprinkler. Marcy had a hard time understanding how they could get so much pleasure out of something so mundane. Shaking her head slightly, she reached for her pink glock. This was still somewhat of a puzzle. Although the outside of the gun had a few small crystals glued to it, she'd found out the hard way that the bullets did not take too well to any of the prettifications she'd tried so far. Even the very light coating of paint she'd tried out had ended badly. She was sad about losing her purple glock, but the pink had been her favorite anyway. Even the crystals on the gun had to be placed carefully as they otherwise tended to get in the way of the holster when she practiced her fast draw.
She turned the gun over in her hands for a few minutes and then put it aside to inspect the holster. It was already well decorated with gems, reflective lightning bolts and a few sparkly purple and green turtle stickers. She'd slightly modified the placement of the gems to spell out a cursive looking MF, and it didn't really look like there was room to do anything else. Although her eyes hesitated a bit on the streamers of her nunchucks. Maybe she could repurpose them when she got some more razor blades. Note to self!
From the diming light leaking from the sides of the curtains and the fading laughter of the children at play outside, Marcy knew that she was running out of time to prepare much more for tonight's excursions. She walked to her closet and opened the door. Inside were some dresses and shoes as well as a tall cardboard box that she'd decorated. The box opened like another smaller closet, and inside were her home made night excursion suits. She pulled out the midnight blue spandex body suit and she could hear some of the Kevlar panels sewn inside clack together. It was a comforting sound. She tossed the suit onto the bed and then reached in for her goggles. She preferred the dovetails, but tonight she was going to use the rhino style. It was the only one she had that would stay tightly enough on her head while she rode her bike through the back woods trails.
Marcy also pulled out her modified footwear. She'd never liked the steel toe shoes her father had gotten her for her birthday. They looked too masculine. Not pretty at all! So she'd looked around and found some acceptable sport shoes, and using her father's credit card, ordered a pair of Cats. They had a nice gel insole, plus they didn't complain about her color enhancements and glitter accents. And double-plus, they accepted the attachable pink heel skate rollers with flashing lights! Flashing lights! She was thrilled when she first discovered them!
Unfortunately, she hadn't yet finished making her chain mail leggings and shirt. Marcy had been dragging her feet on that project because she was feeling pretty weighted down as it was. At least she had the neck bib and gloves.
It being a school night, Marcy had to be careful about getting everything through the house and past the guards. Mom and dad would host a conniption if they caught her going out again. So she packed as much as she could into her hello kitty backpack and heaved it out the window. It was a bit of a risk doing it now since it was still plenty light outside, but she would need some time dressing behind the garage. She didn't want to be late.
Speaking of which, she went over to her computer and pushed the mouse to wake up the screen. She logged in and double checked the time and location. She then logged into her account and checked for messages. Nobody had cancelled. That was good. Otherwise, there was no sense going if she was going to be the only one there.
Marcy Flair stood in the center of her room and looked around. It felt like she was forgetting something. She looked at her craft station and saw that the glue gun had been unplugged. She mentally stepped through everything she'd put in her backpack. She'd packed it dozens of times and knew that everything was in it as usual. Then she walked through her plans for the evening, rehearsing the moves she expected to make. That was when she remembered!
"Of course! I wanted to try out the darts!" She said that loudly enough that her little brother knocked on the door and asked if she had called for him. She opened the door, kissed Scottie on the forehead and scooted him back to his room. To get there, Marcy had to duck under the police tape spider webbing across his bedroom doorway. Bright yellow "Property of Scott - DO NOT ENTER" tape that tore easily enough but that Scottie loved to wrap things in. She walked him to his bed to tuck him in. As she reached out to peel away the covers, she noticed a bright green oval sticker on her arm, "Property of Scott" that Scottie had somehow placed without her noticing. Looking around the room, every toy, book, and piece of clothing had some type of "Property of Scott" or "Scott's DO NOT TOUCH" sticker on it. She smiled and peeled the label carefully from her arm and stuck it on his forehead. He giggled and hopped into bed and lifted his arms for a hug. She couldn't resist, he was such a cutie-pie! She bent over and told him to go to sleep, he nuzzled into her neck and squeezed hard. "Ow! Scottie! You're pulling my hair!"
She pulled away and started to reach for her head to rub away the slight pain but Scottie grabbed her hands, "Will you read me a story?" She closed her hands together around his and leaned in again to give him butterfly kisses with her eyelashes.
"Not tonight, Scottie. Sorry. But tomorrow for sure, ok?"
He smiled and turned over, burying his head into the pillow and allowing her to tuck the blankets up over his ears. "Ok Barfie!" He giggled at his favorite play on her name. She gave him a pinch on the little bit of exposed earlobe and swatted him on the butt before leaving.
Marcy closed his door, ducked under the tape and quickly returned to the foot of her bed. It was getting late, but she reached underneath for the package that had been delivered only yesterday. Marcy had been so busy restocking her arrows and adjusting her other more familiar weapons that she's completely forgotten her new toys! Opening the box, she took out the wrist bands and strapped one around her right hand. On the strap were four metal locking rings which allowed her to secure a small metal box. The box contained twelve small holes that aimed in the direction her fingers pointed. On the side of the box, and furthest away from the holes, was one large indentation where the compressed gas canister was supposed to nestle. Placing it all on her wrist, it felt very heavy and the darts hadn't even been inserted yet. She considered moving the contraption back to her elbow, but she decided that there wasn't enough time after all. She would have to try it out another day. Besides, she wanted to practice with the device, although she felt that she would have no trouble mastering it. Carefully she packed it away. It wouldn't have been right to equip it until it looked pretty enough to use.
She closed the box and slid it back under the bed. Enough time wasted, she needed to get outside without drawing suspicion, and she knew exactly how to do it. Skipping down the stairs loudly and then walking through the living room, briefly blocking her parents' view of the television, she hummed her way to the kitchen. Once there, she grabbed a package of gummie fruits, a small pudding pack, and a juice box. Then she twirled back into the living room to pester her parents.
Munching loudly on a fist full of gummies, she asked, "What are we watching?"
"Just a show, Marcy. Please sit quietly and watch it."
"What is that guy doing there?" Marcy asked innocently while popping open the pudding lid.
"He's about to get into some trouble, just like someone in here if that someone doesn't quiet down."
Marcy crumpled up the now empty gummie bag and stuffed it part way into the barely eaten pudding cup. Slurping loudly through the tiny straw she wondered aloud, "Why do they make these straws so small?" To which her parents replied with annoyed silence. The show was reaching a critical moment, so Marcy knew that a commercial break was almost upon them. She had to time this just right. Taking another long drag on the straw, she reached empty just as some critical dialogue ushered in the commercial break. Her parents hadn't quite heard the last few words due to the empty juice box straw sucking sound and her mother turned an annoyed look to her daughter, "Marcy! Really?" Dad reached for the remote control to rewind back to the end of the scene.
Knowing that the timing was perfect, Marcy put her best hurt pout on and said, "Fine, I'll leave you to your precious show!" She stood, and started to walk back to the stairway as if she were going back to her bedroom. In the meantime, the crackly gummie bag that had been stuffed partway into the pudding cup had expanded enough to pop out of the container and drop first to the coffee table, and then to the floor. There was just enough pudding on it to leave a slight trail. The movement had caught both her parents' eyes and when they saw their daughter leaving behind the mess, mom's temper boiled a bit, "Marcy! Young lady you know better than to leave your trash. You march back here and pick that up. In fact, you can take the trash right out to the garage."
"But mooooom! That's not fair! It's Scottie's turn to do the trash!"
"I don't care! You pick this mess up and then take the trash out, Don't forget to replace the bag in the trash bin this time."
Marcy was again trying to time things to the television. She had to make certain that the commercial break would be over and her parents would be distracted by the show to notice that she never came back in from the garage. So she made a show of picking up every little bit of trash and mumbled her complaints as she walked slowly into the kitchen. She heard the television start up again and her parents re-watched the last of the scene they'd missed. Then her father started to fast-forward through as much of the commercials as possible before catching up to regular programming.
It was a fast job to get the trash ready to go, but Marcy still worried that her parents might miss her. So just as the show started up again, Marcy poked her head into the living room, "Mom? Dad?"
Her father hit the pause button, "Marcy? What is it?"
"I got the trash all set, do you guys want a snack or anything? I'll bring it in to you?"
Their slight annoyance melted away to smiles, "No Marcy, thank you, we're fine." Then the show started again and they were quickly mesmerized.
Good, thought Marcy. Now when they think back to whether Marcy had come back after doing the trash, they'll remember her asking if they needed a snack. They won't figure out she's gone until too late, or never at all if she can sneak back in later undetected.
Outside, the day was mostly over. Dusk would end soon and by then Marcy would be to her first rendezvous location. That would be the small dirt trail that formed a hairpin just above the small creek. Marcy knew that her wheel attachments wouldn't do her any good there, so she put them in the basket of her bicycle. The basket was latched with a bright red thumb lock in the shape of a heart. Marcy noticed that it would need to be re-glittered soon. In the basket she also had accessories belts. There was a nice wide one that hugged the top of her hips. It had spots for a stun gun, some gorgeous pearl handled butterfly knives, four different canisters of pepper sprays, and a holster for her glock. She pushed that one aside and instead withdrew the two extra-long belts that she wore crisscross over her chest. This was her favorite, but her recent growth in that area was making it less comfortable to wear. Soon she would retire this one and stick with just the hip hugger.
Sitting on the top of her basket of goodies was her problem-solving box, about the size of a portable first aid kit, and the current love of her life, Piggy-Bear. This was Marcy's special teddy bear. She took it out briefly, made sure that Piggy was ok, then gave it a quick hug and a kiss before checking that her problem-solving box was secure. She then closed her basket with a pleased sigh.
While straddling her bicycle, Marcy loaded up her accessories. Her favorite new add-on to the belt was a small elastic fabric band that held the crossing belts tighter to the small of her back where she had two knuckle knives tucked in secret pockets. It was a double-win because feeling the knives there made her feel stronger, plus, the fabric she used was from the Princess Pony cartoon she used to love to watch. Just like the pony, it was cute to look at, but it hid a nasty kick.
As Marcy double checked that all of her gear was secure, she stood on her left peddle to head down the driveway. There she looked over her shoulder at the house. The only evidence of activity came from the flickering bluish light from the television where her parents were cuddling on the couch. Smiling, she was about to peddle away when she thought she heard a noise. It was almost like a bug had just flown past her ear. Holding her breath, she pulled her goggles down over her eyes and switched them on. She looked up and down the cul-de-sac but saw nothing. Must have been a bug. Or maybe a bat? Either way it wasn't a big deal, besides, it was getting late and Ms. Flair had an appointment to keep. She switched off the goggles and slid them back up to the top of her helmet before pedaling down the road.
The ride to the small dirt hill was an easy one as the three miles of road were almost all either downhill or level. But it was a little surprising that no cars had passed her. It was a slight relief as well, though. She didn't want to draw any attention to herself. The sparkles and streamers decorating the bike tended to pull the eye away from the few weapons that she had holstered here and there. The overall impression people got from a quick look was that she was a little girl riding on her bike and carrying a bunch of toys.
Marcy turned off of the main streets between the two trees that marked the entrance to the small dirt access road. She coasted to the first turn and stopped to listen. There were the usual sounds of crickets and other nightly wildlife in the small woods. The quarter moon was mostly covered by clouds, so visibility was poor. Nonetheless, she liked her eyes to the dark before relying on her goggles. She also sniffed at the air. It was amazing how stupid some men can be. They think they are being so sneaky in their clever hiding spots, but then they can't help themselves but to light up a cigarette. Gives them away almost all the time. Although Marcy thought she could detect a hint of smoke, it wasn't enough to tell her anything useful tonight. So she got off her bike and walked slowly down the side of the gravel road as quietly as she could.
Every few feet, Marcy would pause and just listen. She had kept her eyes on the general spot through the woods where she was supposed to meet him, but couldn't see anything there yet. He must have a really dark car. Because she was getting so close without having any solid information yet, she decided to do a sweep of the area with her night goggles. She was glad she did. Not only was she able to see her appointment standing beside a sleek dark convertible, but settled more deeply in the woods, she could also see a van with two people inside. One was smoking. She wondered if there were more in the van. Her first thought as the sudden adrenaline evened out in her system was that this was going to be a blast!
Marcy squinted at her work. Pink sparkles surrounding a flat cat's-eye-blue plastic gem arranged like a constellation of beauty on a small triangular feather. She turned the otherwise white feather over, and blew gently on the afterfeather. Little wisps of powder-soft fingers waved at her nose. She smiled and arranged the feather on her desk, gem-side up next to a row of similarly adorned feathers, to let the glue dry undisturbed.
Next, Marcy reached for the glue gun, hot with a sticky trail of amber leaking from its nozzle. She pressed the trigger lightly to smear a narrow line of glue along the thin metal rod in front of her. It was just then that a flop of her bangs waggled down from her forehead and tried to play peek-a-boo with her eye. Bad timing! With a quick flick of her head, she tossed the curl to the top of her head long enough out of the way for her to quickly align a foil lightning bolt on the glue. She held it steady until the bright decoration adhered tightly despite the hot burning on her thumb where some of the glue had squished around to her skin.
Tiny creative fingers lifted the metal rod so that the slight bit of sunlight piercing the blinds could reflect off all of the foil lightning bolts decorating the titanium bar. Not quite satisfied, she held one end of the rod between her fingers so she could rotate the shaft more easily. Lifting an aerosol can she sprayed a puff of glue into the air, and then twirled the rod through it. Before the glue dried, she picked up a shaker of multi-colored sprinkles and shook tiny sparkles all over the now festive pole.
While these projects rested, Marcy turned her attention to the pink plastic handles she'd attached, each to one end of two solid aluminum bars. The bars were connected at the other end by a braided nylon and steel flex-cord. They looked so plain. Reaching under the desk, she pulled up a flimsy plastic shopping bag. Inside was a cardboard and cellophane package containing purple and red handlebar streamers. They were designed for bicycles, but they were going to work wonderfully for this project. She attached the streamers to the handles, as instructed in the directions, then modified them to better suit her needs. Hidden inside the streamers of one handle, she inserted a super-sized fishing hook designed to resemble something better suited to grappling. Once that was done, Marcy pulled open one of the drawers of the desk and carefully pulled out four long narrow razor blades. These were attached to a metal ring by small hoops that allowed the blades to move freely - much like the streamers. The metal ring was attached to the other pink handle so as to allow the razors to mingle with the streamers. She paused for a moment and wondered if the blades might eventually ruin the streamers. She made a note to herself to color the sides of the razors pink and maybe later simply replace all of the flimsy plastic with the thin slices of steel.
By now, the feathers and rods Marcy had been working on were ready to be assembled. She glued the feathers into the slots at the ends of the rods, and then carefully screwed in the arrow heads. She had quite a variety of arrow tips. The heavy bodkin tips were lightly dusted with glow-in-the-dark powder. The barbed tips were lightly sprayed with red paint, while the viper tips were dusted with orange day-glow paint. Marcy hefted one of the arrows in her hand. It held her only half-moon blade… just in case. Each of the arrows was carefully lowered into their slots in her home made quiver. She would know any of her arrows by the slightest touch of a feather.
Outside she heard some neighborhood children screaming as they danced through Mrs. Arnold's sprinkler. Marcy had a hard time understanding how they could get so much pleasure out of something so mundane. Shaking her head slightly, she reached for her pink glock. This was still somewhat of a puzzle. Although the outside of the gun had a few small crystals glued to it, she'd found out the hard way that the bullets did not take too well to any of the prettifications she'd tried so far. Even the very light coating of paint she'd tried out had ended badly. She was sad about losing her purple glock, but the pink had been her favorite anyway. Even the crystals on the gun had to be placed carefully as they otherwise tended to get in the way of the holster when she practiced her fast draw.
She turned the gun over in her hands for a few minutes and then put it aside to inspect the holster. It was already well decorated with gems, reflective lightning bolts and a few sparkly purple and green turtle stickers. She'd slightly modified the placement of the gems to spell out a cursive looking MF, and it didn't really look like there was room to do anything else. Although her eyes hesitated a bit on the streamers of her nunchucks. Maybe she could repurpose them when she got some more razor blades. Note to self!
From the diming light leaking from the sides of the curtains and the fading laughter of the children at play outside, Marcy knew that she was running out of time to prepare much more for tonight's excursions. She walked to her closet and opened the door. Inside were some dresses and shoes as well as a tall cardboard box that she'd decorated. The box opened like another smaller closet, and inside were her home made night excursion suits. She pulled out the midnight blue spandex body suit and she could hear some of the Kevlar panels sewn inside clack together. It was a comforting sound. She tossed the suit onto the bed and then reached in for her goggles. She preferred the dovetails, but tonight she was going to use the rhino style. It was the only one she had that would stay tightly enough on her head while she rode her bike through the back woods trails.
Marcy also pulled out her modified footwear. She'd never liked the steel toe shoes her father had gotten her for her birthday. They looked too masculine. Not pretty at all! So she'd looked around and found some acceptable sport shoes, and using her father's credit card, ordered a pair of Cats. They had a nice gel insole, plus they didn't complain about her color enhancements and glitter accents. And double-plus, they accepted the attachable pink heel skate rollers with flashing lights! Flashing lights! She was thrilled when she first discovered them!
Unfortunately, she hadn't yet finished making her chain mail leggings and shirt. Marcy had been dragging her feet on that project because she was feeling pretty weighted down as it was. At least she had the neck bib and gloves.
It being a school night, Marcy had to be careful about getting everything through the house and past the guards. Mom and dad would host a conniption if they caught her going out again. So she packed as much as she could into her hello kitty backpack and heaved it out the window. It was a bit of a risk doing it now since it was still plenty light outside, but she would need some time dressing behind the garage. She didn't want to be late.
Speaking of which, she went over to her computer and pushed the mouse to wake up the screen. She logged in and double checked the time and location. She then logged into her account and checked for messages. Nobody had cancelled. That was good. Otherwise, there was no sense going if she was going to be the only one there.
Marcy Flair stood in the center of her room and looked around. It felt like she was forgetting something. She looked at her craft station and saw that the glue gun had been unplugged. She mentally stepped through everything she'd put in her backpack. She'd packed it dozens of times and knew that everything was in it as usual. Then she walked through her plans for the evening, rehearsing the moves she expected to make. That was when she remembered!
"Of course! I wanted to try out the darts!" She said that loudly enough that her little brother knocked on the door and asked if she had called for him. She opened the door, kissed Scottie on the forehead and scooted him back to his room. To get there, Marcy had to duck under the police tape spider webbing across his bedroom doorway. Bright yellow "Property of Scott - DO NOT ENTER" tape that tore easily enough but that Scottie loved to wrap things in. She walked him to his bed to tuck him in. As she reached out to peel away the covers, she noticed a bright green oval sticker on her arm, "Property of Scott" that Scottie had somehow placed without her noticing. Looking around the room, every toy, book, and piece of clothing had some type of "Property of Scott" or "Scott's DO NOT TOUCH" sticker on it. She smiled and peeled the label carefully from her arm and stuck it on his forehead. He giggled and hopped into bed and lifted his arms for a hug. She couldn't resist, he was such a cutie-pie! She bent over and told him to go to sleep, he nuzzled into her neck and squeezed hard. "Ow! Scottie! You're pulling my hair!"
She pulled away and started to reach for her head to rub away the slight pain but Scottie grabbed her hands, "Will you read me a story?" She closed her hands together around his and leaned in again to give him butterfly kisses with her eyelashes.
"Not tonight, Scottie. Sorry. But tomorrow for sure, ok?"
He smiled and turned over, burying his head into the pillow and allowing her to tuck the blankets up over his ears. "Ok Barfie!" He giggled at his favorite play on her name. She gave him a pinch on the little bit of exposed earlobe and swatted him on the butt before leaving.
Marcy closed his door, ducked under the tape and quickly returned to the foot of her bed. It was getting late, but she reached underneath for the package that had been delivered only yesterday. Marcy had been so busy restocking her arrows and adjusting her other more familiar weapons that she's completely forgotten her new toys! Opening the box, she took out the wrist bands and strapped one around her right hand. On the strap were four metal locking rings which allowed her to secure a small metal box. The box contained twelve small holes that aimed in the direction her fingers pointed. On the side of the box, and furthest away from the holes, was one large indentation where the compressed gas canister was supposed to nestle. Placing it all on her wrist, it felt very heavy and the darts hadn't even been inserted yet. She considered moving the contraption back to her elbow, but she decided that there wasn't enough time after all. She would have to try it out another day. Besides, she wanted to practice with the device, although she felt that she would have no trouble mastering it. Carefully she packed it away. It wouldn't have been right to equip it until it looked pretty enough to use.
She closed the box and slid it back under the bed. Enough time wasted, she needed to get outside without drawing suspicion, and she knew exactly how to do it. Skipping down the stairs loudly and then walking through the living room, briefly blocking her parents' view of the television, she hummed her way to the kitchen. Once there, she grabbed a package of gummie fruits, a small pudding pack, and a juice box. Then she twirled back into the living room to pester her parents.
Munching loudly on a fist full of gummies, she asked, "What are we watching?"
"Just a show, Marcy. Please sit quietly and watch it."
"What is that guy doing there?" Marcy asked innocently while popping open the pudding lid.
"He's about to get into some trouble, just like someone in here if that someone doesn't quiet down."
Marcy crumpled up the now empty gummie bag and stuffed it part way into the barely eaten pudding cup. Slurping loudly through the tiny straw she wondered aloud, "Why do they make these straws so small?" To which her parents replied with annoyed silence. The show was reaching a critical moment, so Marcy knew that a commercial break was almost upon them. She had to time this just right. Taking another long drag on the straw, she reached empty just as some critical dialogue ushered in the commercial break. Her parents hadn't quite heard the last few words due to the empty juice box straw sucking sound and her mother turned an annoyed look to her daughter, "Marcy! Really?" Dad reached for the remote control to rewind back to the end of the scene.
Knowing that the timing was perfect, Marcy put her best hurt pout on and said, "Fine, I'll leave you to your precious show!" She stood, and started to walk back to the stairway as if she were going back to her bedroom. In the meantime, the crackly gummie bag that had been stuffed partway into the pudding cup had expanded enough to pop out of the container and drop first to the coffee table, and then to the floor. There was just enough pudding on it to leave a slight trail. The movement had caught both her parents' eyes and when they saw their daughter leaving behind the mess, mom's temper boiled a bit, "Marcy! Young lady you know better than to leave your trash. You march back here and pick that up. In fact, you can take the trash right out to the garage."
"But mooooom! That's not fair! It's Scottie's turn to do the trash!"
"I don't care! You pick this mess up and then take the trash out, Don't forget to replace the bag in the trash bin this time."
Marcy was again trying to time things to the television. She had to make certain that the commercial break would be over and her parents would be distracted by the show to notice that she never came back in from the garage. So she made a show of picking up every little bit of trash and mumbled her complaints as she walked slowly into the kitchen. She heard the television start up again and her parents re-watched the last of the scene they'd missed. Then her father started to fast-forward through as much of the commercials as possible before catching up to regular programming.
It was a fast job to get the trash ready to go, but Marcy still worried that her parents might miss her. So just as the show started up again, Marcy poked her head into the living room, "Mom? Dad?"
Her father hit the pause button, "Marcy? What is it?"
"I got the trash all set, do you guys want a snack or anything? I'll bring it in to you?"
Their slight annoyance melted away to smiles, "No Marcy, thank you, we're fine." Then the show started again and they were quickly mesmerized.
Good, thought Marcy. Now when they think back to whether Marcy had come back after doing the trash, they'll remember her asking if they needed a snack. They won't figure out she's gone until too late, or never at all if she can sneak back in later undetected.
Outside, the day was mostly over. Dusk would end soon and by then Marcy would be to her first rendezvous location. That would be the small dirt trail that formed a hairpin just above the small creek. Marcy knew that her wheel attachments wouldn't do her any good there, so she put them in the basket of her bicycle. The basket was latched with a bright red thumb lock in the shape of a heart. Marcy noticed that it would need to be re-glittered soon. In the basket she also had accessories belts. There was a nice wide one that hugged the top of her hips. It had spots for a stun gun, some gorgeous pearl handled butterfly knives, four different canisters of pepper sprays, and a holster for her glock. She pushed that one aside and instead withdrew the two extra-long belts that she wore crisscross over her chest. This was her favorite, but her recent growth in that area was making it less comfortable to wear. Soon she would retire this one and stick with just the hip hugger.
Sitting on the top of her basket of goodies was her problem-solving box, about the size of a portable first aid kit, and the current love of her life, Piggy-Bear. This was Marcy's special teddy bear. She took it out briefly, made sure that Piggy was ok, then gave it a quick hug and a kiss before checking that her problem-solving box was secure. She then closed her basket with a pleased sigh.
While straddling her bicycle, Marcy loaded up her accessories. Her favorite new add-on to the belt was a small elastic fabric band that held the crossing belts tighter to the small of her back where she had two knuckle knives tucked in secret pockets. It was a double-win because feeling the knives there made her feel stronger, plus, the fabric she used was from the Princess Pony cartoon she used to love to watch. Just like the pony, it was cute to look at, but it hid a nasty kick.
As Marcy double checked that all of her gear was secure, she stood on her left peddle to head down the driveway. There she looked over her shoulder at the house. The only evidence of activity came from the flickering bluish light from the television where her parents were cuddling on the couch. Smiling, she was about to peddle away when she thought she heard a noise. It was almost like a bug had just flown past her ear. Holding her breath, she pulled her goggles down over her eyes and switched them on. She looked up and down the cul-de-sac but saw nothing. Must have been a bug. Or maybe a bat? Either way it wasn't a big deal, besides, it was getting late and Ms. Flair had an appointment to keep. She switched off the goggles and slid them back up to the top of her helmet before pedaling down the road.
The ride to the small dirt hill was an easy one as the three miles of road were almost all either downhill or level. But it was a little surprising that no cars had passed her. It was a slight relief as well, though. She didn't want to draw any attention to herself. The sparkles and streamers decorating the bike tended to pull the eye away from the few weapons that she had holstered here and there. The overall impression people got from a quick look was that she was a little girl riding on her bike and carrying a bunch of toys.
Marcy turned off of the main streets between the two trees that marked the entrance to the small dirt access road. She coasted to the first turn and stopped to listen. There were the usual sounds of crickets and other nightly wildlife in the small woods. The quarter moon was mostly covered by clouds, so visibility was poor. Nonetheless, she liked her eyes to the dark before relying on her goggles. She also sniffed at the air. It was amazing how stupid some men can be. They think they are being so sneaky in their clever hiding spots, but then they can't help themselves but to light up a cigarette. Gives them away almost all the time. Although Marcy thought she could detect a hint of smoke, it wasn't enough to tell her anything useful tonight. So she got off her bike and walked slowly down the side of the gravel road as quietly as she could.
Every few feet, Marcy would pause and just listen. She had kept her eyes on the general spot through the woods where she was supposed to meet him, but couldn't see anything there yet. He must have a really dark car. Because she was getting so close without having any solid information yet, she decided to do a sweep of the area with her night goggles. She was glad she did. Not only was she able to see her appointment standing beside a sleek dark convertible, but settled more deeply in the woods, she could also see a van with two people inside. One was smoking. She wondered if there were more in the van. Her first thought as the sudden adrenaline evened out in her system was that this was going to be a blast!
Wednesday, February 29, 2012
Uncertainty
One of the things that I find annoying - really annoying - is arrogance. In truth, I don't encounter it very often, but I suspect its presence around me like the dust and pollen that fills the space between nearly all things.You might think that by "arrogance" I refer to the arms-folded-over-chest sneering disdain that some people have for others (or other things). Well, no, not really. But yes, that is pretty annoying too.
Actually, I just mean the arrogance people display when they speak confidently of truths.
To me, this is an annoying form of arrogance. It implies that the person knows something absolutely even when, if pressed, they might have to admit that their "truth" is actually just a likelihood. Certainly a very likely likelihood; but certainly not a certainty.
The spring semester tends to stir up my feelings more so than other times because of the class that I teach (Psychology of Paranormal Beliefs). In this class we come into contact with a LOT of people who hold certainty close to their chests, yet still have enough in excess to trumpet it from their mouths. Very annoying.
I've surely mentioned this in an earlier blog-entry, but when I was much younger, I remember a comment my mother made to me about her view of people who have faith in God. (Which one? Take your pick!) She simply envied their ability to be certain.
At the time I agreed; but now, I do not.
By no means am I trying to rag on religion. There are plenty of other places on the web that you can visit for that. And I can't really say that I only noticed this in persistent arrogance among those who confidently claim that aliens are among us, the towers were collapsed by pre-placed explosive charges rather than jets crashing into them, or even (still!) that the moon landings were a hoax. That stuff (and so much more) just brought it into focus for me.
As I drive from here to there, I watch other drivers talking on cell phones, TEXTING, and daydreaming, all while speeding confidently down the street or highway. They seem quite certain that THEY can handle it and everyone else who died when a deer crossed their path, or another driver veered, or a rock hit their windshield, or the road turned and they didn't… that all those accidents were stupid mistakes that they THEMSELVES could never make.
In one intersection waiting for a light to change, I observe cars blowing through the red light as well as others driving confidently through their green light without even a glance left or right to make sure the coast is clear. If the light is green, it must be safe! Don't question it!
These people speed through parking lots, past parked cars that because they are "parked" are viewed as non-threats that can be ignored. I've seen kids dart out between these non-threats, I've seen people throw their cars into gear and pull out before even looking to see if the coast is clear. I've seen people speed around a car stopped to politely let someone out of their parking spot only to almost smash into the backing-out car! The speedy idiot honks and yells at the "stupid jerk" who was pulling out.
It's scary to think how little thought goes into people's heads when they blithely zip through the streets in these 4,000 pounds of plastic and rubber shells on wheels.
But it looks like I am drifting away from my focus... Let me make one other quick observation before I re-focus.
When I was in grad-school, my area of study was language processing. In particular, I did a lot of research with words that have multiple interpretations (ambiguity). Within less than one year of working with ambiguity in language, my mind was irreparably damaged. I had become sensitized to ambiguity to the point that I was no longer able to hear (or read) what people meant.
The simple question, "Did you remember to go to the bank today?" would give me pause.
I would hesitate, wondering if the person thought I was supposed to have stopped near a river for some reason. I'm a little better nowadays, but I still find myself over-analyzing practically everything I hear or read. Once you start looking for ambiguity, you'll be surprised how widespread it really is. But let me warn you, once you take that walk down that path, you may never find your way back.
Ok, so back to my focus (such that it is), which is just that as smug as I may sometimes feel that uncertainty and a general lack of trust is the only sane perspective, I find that it has a down side.
The arrogance of thinking that YOU "know" something makes me want to prove that you really don't. But I won't ever do that, because there's a part of me that questions whether I really know that you don't really know. So, my confidence in uncertainty undermines my own certainty that you should not be confident to the point that I can't be sure that you aren't right to be so sure.
So is it better to live a life of confidence (caught by surprise every time you turn out to be wrong about something), or, live a life of hesitance due to uncertainty (but rarely get caught being "wrong" since you hardly ever allow yourself to commit to a path of certainty)?
I hate being in car accidents (i.e., being wrong), but I also hate not being able to have the unquestioning faith in a belief.
Maybe I should just take to flipping coins?
Monday, January 02, 2012
Corny Lines: Number One Cause of Spousal Eye-Rolling for Over 10 Years
Over the years I have managed to come up with a few choice lines that I can use in social situations to mask my social phobia(s); In this case, my fear of talking to/with strangers.Unfortunately, my wife has heard them all; Over and over again. So it occurred to me that I could list these out so others can annoy their own spouses with them as well!
Surely I've missed a few of my suave "des phrases intelligentes" but the ones below will certainly be sufficient for you to begin your stroll down the same dark path I've trampled for you.
I've provided some context for these since it occurred to me while I was writing down the ones I could remember that they may be a bit too ripe for the double entendre treatment without context. So if you like, please look them over again with one eye closed and throw in a couple of that's-what-she-said's for a different reading.
One final important note here too is that I in no way mean to imply anything disparaging about my wife. She is wonderful to put up with me for as long as she has and the behaviors listed below only scratch the surface of the torments I put her through. Eye-rolling is better than I'd expect from anyone else and certainly better than I deserve!
Out to Eat (for the most part - some of these work elsewhere, too)
- When asked by the server, "Would you care for anything else?" I pause for a couple of beats and look straight in their eyes then say, "No, nothing else. Is that ok?" The usual response is something like, "Of course! But let me know if you change your mind."
- Upon arrival a few moments later of the check, I don't allow it. "Excuse me, but, I think we agreed just a few seconds ago that I didn't want anything else." This is where the wife usually swats me on the arm and takes over the conversation with, "Thank you!" followed by the eye-roll.
- Ok, this one is actually really cool. But it really wears a bit thin on people who have to endure it from me time and time again at every damn restaurant I go to! But so what?! It's really cool! To do this, you need to make sure that your server actually has a few minutes to spend at your table. Also, you need to have a cloth napkin or a paper napkin that is rolled diagonally to make the longest paper tube you can make with that napkin. In other words, if you don't have something to measure about a foot and a half or so (under half a meter), don't try this.
- Place your soda glass in the center of the table. Then ask your server to estimate which distance is greater, once around the circumference of the glass or the distance from the edge of the glass to the table. It doesn't matter what they say at this point. You can even suggest that they might be about the same. Whatever the answer, grab the salt shaker and put it under the glass. You may need to hold the glass there to keep it from spilling. Ask the same question again. Of course now the distance from the lip of the glass to the table looks to be WAY more than the circumference of the glass. This is where the napkin comes in handy as a measuring tool. Have the server do the measuring. Specifically, have them find the circumference with the napkin and then use that length to see if it is greater than the distance from the table to the rim of the glass (i.e., including the distance added by the salt shaker). Unless it is an unusually small drink glass and/or an unusually tall salt shaker, the circumference is going to be greater than the distance of the glass and salt-shaker! Isn't that awesome?! Try it out and see for yourself! Too cool! You'll have your friends rolling their eyes in no time with this one alone!
- When I am at the register to pay, the cashier will usually quote a price like, "That will be $17.12 please?" Note that this only works if paying with cash.
- As I count out my money, I will hand over the $17 and then say, "Is that close enough? Or do you really need the rest of it?" Ha ha ha! We share a moment until my wife's giant sigh followed by her opening her pocketbook to add her 12 cents worth of eye rolling.
Actually, you can't blame my wife's eye-rolling here since people don't really like to joke about money - for example, I've opened myself up to the same line if I hand over a dollar to cover the $0.12 and expect change back - the cashier can say, "Well, that's close enough isn't it? You don't need any change back, right?" Where's the humor there?!
- My wife really hates this one. Practically every single time I get to the checkout the cashier will automatically ask, "How are you today?" Although I could go with, "How am I what?" (see below) I prefer to go another route that has gotten smiles every time I've used it (except from my wife and anyone else who has heard me do this multiple times before).
- After a really big sigh, I will answer, "Well, I'm old, fat, out of shape, balding, I have bad knees, my teeth are crooked, my hearing is going and I will never get rid of these glasses." Plus whatever else occurs to me. Then I ask it back at them. Usually they say they are fine. To which I say, "Yeah, oh yeah, that's what I meant to say, I'm fine too." Cue the spousal eye-rolling!
- Usually this works best at a restaurant when the manager comes around to the tables (e.g., "How was everything?"), but I find that cashiers at Wal-Mart and such ask something similar. They will greet you and then say something along the lines of, "Did you find everything ok?"
- Wow, talk about a great setup line! Take them literally. "My gosh, it would have taken us forever if we were looking for everything!" Or, "Yikes! We only had the fish! We couldn't possibly have eaten everything!" Smile and look at your spouse to see the eyes start their obligatory rolling!
- Upon noticing that a person is left-handed.
- "Excuse me. Perhaps you can answer an important question I have?" They say "Yes?" and then I ask very earnestly and innocently, "Is it true that left-handed people are more intelligent than right-handed people?" Commence eye-rolling. Note too that I happen to be left-handed. When that fact comes out, I simply state that I am trying to get unbiased data from people who would be in the best position to know the answer: Other left-handers. (More eye-rolling.)
- This one is used any time that a salesperson (or whatever) is dealing with us and has to leave. So this would be for a server at a restaurant or a salesperson at Lowes, your aunt who leaves you in the living room to go to the bathroom, etc. You'll get the idea.
- With a slightly worried or confused look on my face I ask, "So, do you want us to wait here?" This actually causes people to stumble a bit sometimes. You can see them working it out in their heads why I would think otherwise.
The more obvious the situation, the more fun it is to say. Imagine getting pulled over by the police. They'll come up and ask for registration and license then want to go back to their cruiser. Try to catch them before they leave your window, "So, do you want me to wait here?" Or when you visit the doctor's office and the nurse gets you into the paper half-robe in that little examination room with the butcher-paper on the cold leather couch. "The doctor will be with you shortly." This is ripe for, "So, do you want me to wait here, then?" I think you get the idea.
- These last two are usually inflicted on my students. My wife has long ago burned these set-ups from her linguistic repertoire. A few times each semester I will get a student to wave me over and make the mistake of saying, "Can I ask you a question?"
- My now automatic response is, "You just did!" This is followed about 80 percent of the time with, "Can I ask you another question?" Which gets the same awesome answer! After a few moments of rusty gears turning in their noggin's they will finally get to, "Can I ask you two more questions?" This is often delivered with a bit of a smug, "gotcha now" grin. At this point I will tell them that I have a three-question limit and then I walk away. Surely they find this particularly endearing (especially when exam-time is upon them).
- As noted above, this last one is often triggered by a student on Mondays. They will ask something like, "How was your weekend?" or more generally, "How are you?"
- My response is to fall into an Asperger's-like semi-fugue-state and ask back, "How was my weekend what?" or, "How am I what?" They will come back with something they think is more specific, like, "How are you doing?" (etc.), hence, "How am I doing what?".
- Oops, I just remembered another eye-roller (but this one isn't ever from my wife as I never have the chance to use it on her). Mainly this is for my students or the occasional cashier, etc. and can be used for best effect only on Monday or Tuesday.
- As I or they leave, I will say, "Have a nice weekend!" Which gets me about a 90 percent hit with, "You too!" Followed moments later by them stopping in their tracks and saying, "Wait, it's only Monday…" Or, "Does that mean we don't have class the rest of the week?" I explain that it's never too early to wish someone a nice weekend; and yes, classes will be meeting.
Monday, September 05, 2011
The Airplane Lottery Hospital Crash
This month is just a short rant.I love probability statistics - not that I'm great at calculating them, but because of the paradoxes that they seem to support.
Example: Air travel is safer than driving.
Is this true? Well... yes, but also no.
It is "safer" than driving if you calculate number of deaths per passenger-mile traveled.
Hm? What's this? What's "passenger mile?"
If a car has two people in it and travels 100 miles, you get two statistics. (1) Vehicle miles (1 vehicle x 100 miles = 100 vMiles). Then there's (2) Passenger miles (2 passengers x 100 miles = 200 pMiles). So compare the car trip to the airplane that travels 1,000 miles and has 100 passengers.
(1) Vehicle miles: 1 vehicle x 1,000 miles = 1,000 vehicle miles.
(2) Passenger miles: 100 passengers x 1,000 miles = 100,000 passenger miles.
BUT, imagine the car tops a hill (at its 100 mile mark) just as the plane flies over (at its 1,000 mile mark) and they collide in a spectacular display of light, color, and noise (i.e., all dead)!
| Probability of Death | |
|---|---|
| CAR | PLANE |
| 2.0%/vMile | 10.0%/vMile |
| 1.0%/pMile | 0.1%/pMile |
Where's the most dangerous place to be in the world? A hospital! Look at how many people die there! I wonder what the statistics are? Hm, calculating the number of deaths per type of building will surely reveal that hospitals are the most deadly. Probably worse than bathrooms, kitchens, and that married person's bedroom when their spouse comes home all combined!
So you might say something like, "Yeah, sure, if you look at it THAT way, then it seems bad, but people who are sick or are more likely to die usually go to a hospital. So it isn't fair to say that it is the most dangerous place to be."
Good, got that out of your system. But you've missed my point. The point is that NO comparison of apples to oranges is "fair" to make.
People don't treat airplane travel the same way as car travel. How much do you feel threatened by an engine failure if you are driving a car? Is it scary enough that you do a complete check of the engine before every trip? What about engine failure on your plane? Don't you think there is a little more attention given to equipment in one scenario compared with the other?
Also, most fatal accidents are due to human error. Where is human error more common? Wherever there are more humans. How many humans are flying planes at any given moment? Compare that to the number of humans driving cars.
So in terms of the above two cases, would you rather be in a car or a plane if there is complete engine failure? (I'm going to go ahead and assume you picked CAR.) I'd bet that there are WAY more fatalities due to engine (equipment) failure in aircraft than in cars.
Then we switch to human error. If you fall asleep driving a car, you don't get to sleep long before you crash. But in most aircraft, there are backup and safety features to decrease the chances that a brief nap will result in death. (Frankly, though, I doubt that the car or plane option seems too good when human error is involved.)
Up to here then, I hope you can see that these sort of things depend on how you look at them, right? So next time someone throws out some little statistical factoid, you should ask, "Compared to what, exactly?"
Which brings me to the smug idiotards who spout off about how the lottery is a "tax on stupid people." Yikes! Are they WAY behind on their lottery tickets, then!
Their "argument" is based on the premise that all a person get's from their $1 (or whatever) outlay is a virtually sure loss of that money. Not much different from rolling down your car window and throwing your cash into the street. In other words, if I may extrapolate the view: Nothing is of value unless it is tangible.
Wow, that seems more materialistic than the people who can't wait to spend the money they hope to win playing the lottery.
Must all transactions result in a tangible exchange? Are these people demanding to take home fragments of the movie screen when they visit the cinema? Should all roller coasters and Ferris wheels be dismantled because they don't provide tangible gains? When these people go on a date, do they insist on taking souvenirs? (Ok, that one sounds good to me, somehow…) Should every sex act result in a baby?! (Please, nooooooooooooooooooo!)
The idea that people who play the lottery are getting absolutely nothing for their $1 seems farfetched to me. They get something similar to what people get when they go to a movie or to an amusement park.
So would it be fair to say that amusement parks are playgrounds designed for stupid people? Or that movies are ways to keep stupid people in one spot for about two hours?
Ok, I've seen the quality of most of the movies lately, so maybe the argument breaks down here...
Wednesday, August 10, 2011
A Love Story
In my naïveté, I had deluded myself into believing that to survive the great tragedies in my life it would only take the endurance to last the painfully slow process of an "emotional healing." Certainly, there would be the scars... always there to remind me of my pains... and, if I ever became careless enough, always there to be opened slightly. A renewal or rather, a reminder of the original pain.
This isn't true at all.
I find that great tragedy; loss; do not rip open gaping ragged edged wounds that slowly heal back up. No. Nothing at all like that. Instead I find that there is no "healing process" whatsoever. No such thing as "emotional scars." The wound persists. I think that all that will ever happen is that I will learn to avoid that particular spot in my soul. Find ways around the pain.
Often I find myself suddenly at the edge. Looming over the abyss trying not to fall inside again. Sometimes I can pull myself away. Sometimes not. There is some perverse pleasure, I admit, to sometimes falling in and succumbing to the pain, but for the most part it seems more of a relief to put distance between me and her.
It was a day in the later part of a New England summer when we first met. She was the boisterous orange/yellow pup in a tiny cage of the animal shelter's. Her reaction to us (although in retrospect, probably to all who passed her) was that of a joyous reunion between close friends tragically separated years before, never truly expecting to meet again. We could not resist. The drive home was an adventure. She squirmed and fidgeted all through the car. From under the gas peddle to the back seat, to Cindy's lap to the back seat again and then to my lap! We laughed, sometimes nervously, as we contemplated the potential of this four-legged dynamo.
The puppy was supposed to be for my father. My mother, though, simply stated that either the dog goes or she does. To my father's credit, the ultimate decision involved my taking her (the dog, not my mother) to college with me. There, Elizabeth Freedom (as she was eventually named) squirmed her way into my heart as well as numerous garbage pails and other troublesome spots.
Very briefly, Elizabeth began her dog's life with me and my undergraduate years at Plymouth State College (now university). She would ride with me in my navy blue 1975 Ford Maverick (no seatbelts) from Plaistow New Hampshire to visit my someday-to-be wife in Portsmouth. With each trip Elizabeth made it about two miles further before vomiting. Finally, she was able to hold her biscuits for entire car trips and going "bye-bye" became one of the phrases most certain to wag her tail and excite her sparkling eyes.
When home in Plaistow, we would walk in the trails behind my parents' house. With Elizabeth along it sometimes became a surrealistic experience. She would race ahead of us along the pathway until we'd lose sight of her. After a brief while she would shoot across the path in front of us left-to-right. Moments later she'd be passing us on the trail again to race ahead, while in a very short interval after that, she'd pass us again and race ahead as if she'd just lapped us on a race track or was an identical pup chasing her twin up the trail. We never could tell from which direction she'd appear!
After a while, I graduated from college, worked for a year and then married and moved to Kansas for graduate study. Of course Elizabeth came with us. She shared the passenger seat (built only for one I might add) of a Ryder truck one-way rental. The trip was memorable for us all.
I was six years at Kansas. We lived in three different apartments while there. Elizabeth tolerated each move with the easy-going good natured fatalism of a true companion. Wherever her "mom" and "dad" were (or maybe just her food bowl) was home to Elizabeth. And that was ok.
The University of Kansas campus included quite a large park filled with green grass and hills for rolling, trees, water, and most importantly, squirrels. As soon as the door of the car was opened the golden streak flamed into the woods. Elizabeth was like a locomotive charging from tree to tree with the unwavering determination of a guided missile. Many a squirrel no doubt traded red for grey coats because of Elizabeth. When she tired of the chase (that is, when all the squirrels were safely back in their trees), Elizabeth would nose-dive into a plush pile of green grass and squirm onto her back and kick her legs skyward. A sort of "Snoopy-dance" we called it. Her best trick was to find a slight hill and surf down it like an upside-down wiggling dog-torpedo.
Elizabeth was not fond of water. I've wondered why that might be from the day it first became obvious. Did someone try to drown her as an unwanted pup? The best we could get was a little wading until water touched her belly. Then it would be a few licks and maybe, if it was a warm day, a brief rest on the mud perhaps a tail's length from the shoreline into the water.
The six years ended and we moved a half-day closer to New England, Elizabeth's birthplace. This meant we had made it as far East from Kansas as St. Louis. I spent a mere four years there as a post-doc at Washington University. St. Louis was not as dog-friendly as Lawrence, Kansas. The closest running grounds never really compared with the University of Kansas campus nor were the squirrels as friendly or abundant. Our apartment was on the second floor of a converted house which meant quite a number of stairs to climb. This became more and more problematic for Elizabeth given her attraction to food and food-like things as well as her advancing years (she was nearly 13 years old when we finished up in St. Louis).
For the most part, Elizabeth had retired her serious squirrel chasing legs for a more stealthy approach to squirrel hunting. And, truth be known, squirrel hunting wasn't nearly as rewarding anymore as gum or tid-bit hunting. We did manage a few trips to a distant park where we would occasionally mosey along a trail. But it was clear that Elizabeth would never again amaze us with her limitless racing energy.
I finally took a "real" job in Mississippi and moved there June of 1996. For the first time in our lives we lived in a house by ourselves. No more apartments, and best of all for Elizabeth, only four steps to get inside! We stayed in this house for just over one year. This would be Elizabeth's last move. Her last home.
We traveled north during the Winter months of 1997. Cindy's father was quite ill and it seemed that he was declining fast. Elizabeth weathered this trip as any other. With calm interest and a keen eye for snacks. Once in New Hampshire, she stayed with my parents who naturally adored her. My father would kick me out of his chair, but if Elizabeth were in it, he'd hook a fanny-cheek on the edge of the cushion and share rather than disturb her highness. After a great deal of sadness, our reasons for coming to New Hampshire were laid to rest. We drove back to Mississippi and Elizabeth would never be close to her place of birth again.
She lasted until August of 1997. We made a number of tearful trips to the veterinarian's office and were given an assortment of pills. It was clear now that Elizabeth was not in very good shape. Congestive heart failure imminent, she still wagged her tail and seemed to smile pleasantly at us whenever we'd walk into the room. Her looks were always expectant, "Are we going 'bye-bye'?" or "Is it time to eat/play/cuddle?" I honestly don't think that in her heart she understood that she was old and failing. Maybe she lived each day with the expectation that whatever her ills, they would eventually pass and she'd once again run like a rabbit through the woods behind our house.
We've since bought two houses. Elizabeth would truly have loved our first house. Not even a single step to get inside. Plenty of cool spots to lie down. Sun spots to warm her belly in every room. And, a fireplace. She never knew a fireplace. I sometimes look wistfully at the flames and imagine how well she would have looked stretched in front of its warmth. I miss her. I always will.
My good girl has been gone now for as long as she'd lived. While it pains me even to write these few words, I hope that maybe when Elizabeth died beneath my caresses fourteen years ago today, somehow all that she was and knew of us passed back to that fidgety pup in that small cage so few years ago. Perhaps that was why she was so happy to see us. Perhaps she knew us already. Maybe we were the long lost friends she longed to see again. Her happiness was that she could do it all again.
Saturday, April 30, 2011
SPAM Baiting
This month's entry is pretty lame. It is just an experiment to see if I can get as much spam as possible in my "comments" section for this month. I fairly regularly get crap "comments" sent to a couple of earlier posts which are obviously spambot created based on some combination of words I'd used. I have always filtered them out. BUT THIS TIME my plan is to allow them in for this posting to see what I can collect. So the next few paragraphs are going to use sets of words that I believe might lure spambots into spamming me. These will of course be written innocently (and will probably read like boring drivel) so as to better demonstrate the lack of context needed to attract this sort of attention. Maybe this will fail, but I am curious to see what will happen.So I was thinking about stuff in my past, you know, sort of dating myself in my mind, but it wasn't so much the date that I was focusing on, as what girls and boys of that day might look like today as men and women. How these groups might look today… In this regard, and regardless of their sex, I wondered if they exercise their imaginations. If they also think back to their past, feeling the weight of the years pressing down on them. Did they make the right decisions, did they experience loss and gain in equal amounts. Did they follow the recipe of their life in ways that allowed each ingredient to play its part? So much food for thought, I suppose. It was too much for my brain to eat in a single sitting, though. So I switched topics.
I wanted to invest some time to speculate on futures. By that I mean, of course, spend some energy on what tomorrow would bring. But to do that, I would have to buy into the whole "today predicts tomorrow" way of thinking that doesn't really hold the same currency with young people today. Young people today seem to me to save their free time mostly for digital media rather than interacting with actual people.
That line of thought depressed me a bit because it seems like nowadays, people my age can't relate as well to the blossoming generation. I would practically need to be psychic to have half a chance to figure out what kids today are feeling. And frankly, it just isn't in the stars for me to be a psychic - nor would I consult an astrologer for that matter… surely they possess no viable alternative to understanding the digital generation. Besides, our cultures barely overlap enough to share that common ground needed for communication. Just the differences in health situations insures a communication gap that no medicine can cure. I don't need a graduate degree to figure that out. Life is education enough, my friend!
Speaking of education, I cannot help but be reminded of my job before I decided to go to college. I worked at a company that built the Patriot Missile, if that rings a bell? Spending so many days of my life at that job made me realize the importance of variety. Day in and day out, the same work, the same faces. The days slipped by - and I wasn't even drinking alcohol! Although if I were still there, I'd no doubt have a beer gut by now. Seems like that is one of the paths to the "American Way" I've heard about. With the other extreme becoming president, like Obama. Seriously, though, I doubt that path was as possible as the beer gut path. Besides, I'm more of a video game kind of guy.
Games that I enjoy tend to be the first person shooters. They suck you in like movies. I even own an old Vectrex game (look it up) that needs some repair. But it was awesome! You'd think with my interest I'd have considered a career in programming. Nope. Too lazy and not quite a good enough thinker or problem solver to do well in that field. Dammit! There's money to be had there, though!
Oh, but I got off the track of health up above. Which reminds me that if I plan to do some traveling next month, I might want to get checked out. Maybe get a shot to protect me from an exotic virus. Hm. Just thinking about health care today makes me wonder about people of the past, like the Trojans who battled across the lands. They never worried about shots. But on the other hand, they probably didn't live as long… Ok, I won't talk myself out of the shot. I will have to download the list of local clinics where my insurance will pay for at least a tetanus booster. Better to be illness free on any trips I take. Don't want to lose my stamina on those long treks through the ruins of Greece or up the steep trails along the Grand Canyon.
Whatever. Maybe I should just be satisfied that I am healthy enough to consider travel, rather than whine about the past. Let's just see where things take us?
I will give this some time and actually ALLOW whatever "anonymous" posts I get to be listed. Any bets as to how many?
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Ok, so I gave it 8 months and I was able to attract 27 spam-bot posts. That's more than 3 per month (although I haven't gotten any for the past two-three months). Compare that to the maybe 1 I get per post otherwise. So clearly I was able to catch some spam-fish! Whoop-de-doo!
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Monday, February 28, 2011
This Is Why I Hate Winter!
The wind that day was gray. Dark swirling maniac gusts that tugged and pushed with clearly evil intent. I tried to pull my coat tighter around my body, hands deep in leaky pockets. My flannel pajama bottoms snapped and rippled as I tried to keep from slipping on invisible ice. As I passed beneath the tree in the back yard clumps of snow broke from the branches and disintegrated into tiny cold pellet-bombs. Plops of snow tapped my head warning me too late that kamikaze ice was about to drop between the back of my jacket and neck. Every step I took, icy wads of heel-squashed snow flipped out of my slippers as the backs of my feet emerged like swimmers gasping for air between strokes. Fresh downy snow puffs cascaded into my inadequate footwear with each step, machine-like, preparing a new pancake of ice to eject on the next step. My legs cranked and my feet punched ahead into deeper and deeper drifts of cold white powder.Each numbing step I took away from the warmth of my house became more resentful. Stomp… Stomp! STOMP!
My back was cold and yet also oddly sweaty. I snorted an irritated puff of air at this ridiculous thought. Steam rose to my eyes then split and drifted to either side of my head. The inner edges of my glasses clouded slowly from my nose and I knew it wouldn't be long before they'd be entirely fogged. "What the hell am I doing?"
I stopped to look back at the house, which was now hidden behind the gray wind. The turn dislodged a dribble of half-melted snow from the back of my neck and down my back to wedge into the elastic waistband of my pajamas. "Christ, that's cold!" I actually yelled this while I did a quick twisty-dance to dislodge snow from flannel.
Carefully I turned back to consider the tree line I had been walking toward. Again, "What the hell am I doing? This is stupid." Yet my feet resumed their mechanical trudge despite my growing doubts.
After about twenty more ice-cake wads were processed through my assembly-line march, I finally arrived at the trees bordering the back of my yard. I couldn't see much. The spindly tree branches formed a black haphazard spider web against the impenetrable milky soup. Behind this shifting gray backdrop I could see nothing but imagination.
It had taken a great deal of nerve to push me out into the yard this distance. Now that I was here, my nerves were reversing polarity. I had left the back door unlocked. Maybe what I thought I had seen through the window had circled around and was now waiting in my warm house? I was beginning to feel safer in this cold cocoon of dense gray. Well, I couldn't stay here, so I peered as bravely as I could into the wooded fog. I hoped that who- or what- ever was there would see the warrior in me instead of the shivering sweaty overweight boob I was feeling like.
With as a cruel a sneer as I could manage, I turned to head back toward my house. I hadn't taken four steps when the skin and hair on my neck began to prickle with anticipation of an attack from behind. Although I knew that the footsteps I heard were my own, my imagination overrode my intellect and I ran as fast as I could toward that back door. My first step in this sprint toward safety exposed my entire right foot to the raw elements, leaving behind a wet leather slipper. The other slipper was never more than half on my foot all the way back to my house.
I felt foolish as I fumbled the door open and slammed it shut behind me. My fat chest heaved with joy and exertion at the successful finish to my race with whatever imaginary fiend had been chasing me. Truly my smile at this point was one of mild embarrassment. Shaking my head I turned around and twisted the bolt to lock the door. As an afterthought, I pushed the blinds up a bit to see if I could see the tree line. Instead, through the glass I saw the red eyes and yellowed fangs of what looked like a giant man-wolf staring back at me just inches from my face.
If I hadn't lost one slipper outside, I might have pissed myself. I could feel my bladder twinge a bit as if to say it was ready to give it a try.
The truth of the matter, though, is that a man cannot pee if his feet are uneven or if one big-toe is cold and the other warm. The whatever part of my brain responsible for laying down the man-laws issued a military "NO" to my bladder's tentative twinge. That was enough to lock my plumbing. It also had the side effect of clenching my sphincter. I hadn't even been aware of how close I was to shitting myself. I guess it's just another type of man-law: "Focus on one, two will follow."
All of this happened in a matter of milliseconds. My brain had yet to process even a little of it, really. Instead, the moment was dominated by the high-pitched and very girlish sounding scream that I gave as I threw my whole body back from the door. While flying away from the door, a small part of me was only beginning to process the realization that the face I thought I had seen outside the window had really been a reflection of what was behind me.
Monday, January 24, 2011
The Future Me Is AWESOME!
Sitting next to my diet coke and headless chocolate reindeer, I marvel at how heavy I've become. Guilt seasons each mouthful and I assure myself that things will change. They must!Yes, tomorrow, I will collect my willpower and resolve.
Tomorrow I will eat only healthy foods and avoid all the garbage that has stuck to my ribs (well actually, more than just the ribs… let's go with all 206 of the bones - yeah, I have chocolate reindeer and other junk foods stuck to ALL of my skeletal system; plus maybe also stuck on some tendons, blood vessel walls, surely; brain, liver… ok let's say I have gobs of fat stuck everywhere and leave it at that).
To feel better now, I tell myself about what I will do tomorrow. In addition to a better diet, I will of course also be heading back to the fitness center! Despite not having the knees to run… or apparently to walk now, too… I can start swimming! I love to swim! The downside of smelling like chlorine every day for the rest of my life is a small price to pay for health!
As soon as I am done fitnessing, I will do some health-eating. Then I will NOT turn to my game computer and visit the vast wastelands of Fallout 3 (or other exotic and exciting locales waiting for me to double-click on their welcoming icons). And while that's on the chopping block, it would probably be for the best if I just canceled the satellite service too. No need to be wasting time watching Fringe and The Mentalist. Instead, I will use that time to get all the chores around the house done. There's lots of stuff in need of being sorted and thrown out or donated! Not to mention the painting, sanding, and minor repairs that need to be done here and there. Oh yeah, the cellar could REALLY use a makeover! So that's what I will do starting tomorrow!
Well, at least some of that tomorrow. I can't do everything in one day.
So, then... probably this weekend I will get that other stuff done. That really makes the most sense. The weekend is better for big jobs like cellars. Then in the afternoon, when I finish those bigger jobs, I can settle in and work on getting lectures tweaked. New material worked into the PowerPoints. Look over alternate texts for future classes. Get my next research project panned out. You know... Whatever else needs attention.
It is a great relief to me to know that Tomorrow-Me and Weekend-Me have everything under control. So for now, I can sit back, finish my reindeer and 0-calorie carbonated beverage and hope that Today-Me doesn't get in the way of any of the Awesome-Me's of the future!
I really can't wait to meet them! They are soooo cooler than me. Unlike Yesterday-Me who ruined my chances of being Tomorrow-Me, today…
Tuesday, December 21, 2010
Haunted By...
When I was a lot younger, I recall a conversation I had with my mother. I don't actually remember much of the conversation; how it started; what it was mostly about. But what I do remember was what she said regarding people of strong faith. She said how much she envied that part of some people who were able to believe so strongly in something without proof (such as God - but that's not at all my point here).I think that she craved something of that blind certainty. To have an unshakable belief that withstands the onslaughts of others' beliefs, conflicting evidence, and oftentimes even logic or reason.
At the time, I was able to understand that craving. But it wasn't quite the same. My craving derived from a desire to know. For the most part, I didn't know a lot, and knew that I didn't know a lot. The idea of truly knowing an answer to some BIG question really appealed to me. That was what I thought she meant.
In hindsight, though, I think she envied the concept of faith in an "ignorance is bliss" sort of way. I'd like to think, though, that if she had the choice to slip into a state of faith based on ignorance, she would not.
For myself at the time, I naïvely expected a direct positive relationship between education and a strong sense of knowing. Yet, after 30 or so years, I still find myself wistful for that strong sense of knowing. In fact, my sense is that the more I know, the more I doubt.
Looking around me, I see people who have strong beliefs, nonetheless. It makes me feel as though I am doing something wrong. So I examine these people's beliefs more closely - hoping to see whatever it is that they see that makes them so certain. They may point to the "evidence" for their strong beliefs, but all I see are fractures, weak or missing supports, misunderstanding, ignorance, irrelevance, or loud smoke.
What I mean by "loud smoke" comes from the way my father would occasionally argue his points. He would simply raise his voice and wave his arms around while smoking a cigarette. So he would literally become a loud puff of smoke that just kept repeating his viewpoint without any obvious justification. So to me, "loud smoke" is just a belief that is yelled really loudly and is about as solid as smoke.
Going to school and learning about psychology has shorn away many of the supports I would otherwise imagine myself relying upon to justify beliefs. On the one hand, it is depressing for me because I feel less and less confident that I will ever hold a strong belief, but on the other hand I find it really fascinating how people's minds work that allows them to hold strong beliefs. In other words, it is amazing all the tools we have, use, and develop to sustain our beliefs! So at least I am able to replace my loss with the gain of learning about some pretty cool stuff!
So anyway, here is a PARTIAL list of reasons why I don't believe anything too strongly:
- False Memory: There are all sorts of memory problems revealed in psychology (reconstruction effects, implantation effects, degradation effects, etc.). My first experience with the fallibility of memory came when I was walking around the streets of Haverhill with my cousins and their friends. I must have been in sixth or seventh grade at the time. We came upon another group of kids across the street. For some reason, one of the guys in our group thought that someone on the other side deserved to have a rock thrown at them. He picked up a stone and hurled it across the street and nailed one of the guys over there. We all took off running. (No, it was not me throwing rocks - trust me; I couldn't hit the ground if I aimed at it.)
Later (months) I was in school and some kid came up to me and started yelling that I had thrown a rock at him and he was going to get me back! At first I had no idea what the hell he was yelling about, but after a bit, I realized he was the boy that had been hit by the rock a while back. I tried to explain that it wasn't me that had thrown the rock, but he was adamant that it WAS me because he never forgets a face and he would certainly never forget such a mean thing that was done to him nor who had done it.
At the time, I shared with him the same naïve view of memory. We both apparently believed that memory was a biological recorder of events. What people stored in memory was perfectly accurate, although it could have holes (like when we forget something - it's just missing information). Therefore, I assumed this kid was lying about what happened because he had no idea who the real rock-thrower person was, and never would. BUT, he remembered seeing ME there and was therefore only going to be able to exact revenge on the next best person; someone who had been part of the enemy group of rock-throwers; me!
Nowadays, I know he wasn't deliberately lying. He probably truly believed I was the rock-thrower. His memory was inaccurate, but he believed his memory was flawless. He held a strong belief based on corrupted data. But unlike a computer that can potentially analyze a memory drive and determine that it is bad, with human memory, we have no way of knowing what memories are good and which are bad. It ALL feels like GOOD memory! DOUBT. - Sensory Events: Having learned a pretty good amount about how the senses work, and especially how perception occurs, I know that even direct experiences with the world can be misleading. Just off the top of my head, here are some things that contribute to my doubts about what I see, hear, taste, touch, or smell about the world around me:
(1) Expectancy effects. (2) Constancy effects. (3) Phantosmia (and I'd include parosmia here too). (4 & 5) Hypnagogia and hypnopompia (accompanied by sleep paralysis). (6) Exploding head syndrome. (7+) Tactile hallucinations (e.g., feeling of bugs crawling on our skin, called formication; inability to locate an itchy spot; also what I call the voodoo effect - when you suddenly feel as though you are being poked by a needle for no apparent reason [a nociceptive illusion]; etc.). (8) Migraine aura (fortification illusion, photopsia, and scintillating scotoma). (9) Sleep paralysis. (10) Peduncular hallucinosis (I have a friend who experiences this - he is visited by Death, you know, cloaked and hooded skeleton carrying a scythe). (11) Synesthesia. (12) Tinnitus (hearing a [usually] high-pitched sound even though no sound is present). (13) Apophenia (and of course, pareidolia). (14) Autokinetic effect (perception of movement when there is no anchoring/orienting information, e.g., a small dot of light in an otherwise dark environment will appear to bounce and float around - it's really just our eyes moving, but we can't tell that because there is not enough visual information available to lock our eyes onto.) (15) Ideomotor effect (unconscious physical movements that affect objects in our vicinity that we then attribute to outside or paranormal sources - instead of to ourselves). (16) Pupil response (can make us think we see shadows). (17) Entoptic Phenomena (e.g., scratches on our corneas or junk in our eyes (the vitreous), can be seen under the right conditions and confused for objects and events in the world around us [cf. blue field entopic phenomenon]). (18+) Not to mention all of the ways our sensory world gets messed up when we drink, are over-tired, experiment with drugs, etc.
Of course, I'm not even listing here the possible (1) chronoceptive (losing track of time; feeling as though time is going slower or faster than usual; stopped; etc.), (2) equilibrioceptive (shifts in sense of balance that can not only make one feel dizzy, but also that they were pushed, or that gravity has shifted, etc.), (3) proprioceptive (Oliver Sack's writes about this in A Leg to Stand On - e.g., when our body parts feel foreign; like they do not belong to us), and (4) thermoceptive (temperature based) illusions people can experience (we don't really sense temperature, but shifts in thermal conductivity - when heat is drawn from our skin, we sense cold; when heat enters our tissue, we sense warmth. It's all relative.). - Psychological Illusions: We fool ourselves all the time with our little cognitive tricks. Sometimes we do so to protect our ego (see Social Psychology texts for more of these); sometimes to protect a belief; sometimes just to make it easier to process our complex world; and sometimes without even realizing it - out of habit.
(1) Confirmation bias (e.g., focus on "hits" and ignore "misses"). (2) Hindsight bias. (3) Availability heuristic. (4) Representativeness heuristic. (5) Assuming causation from correlation. (6) Need for certainty. (7) Change blindness & Inattention blindness. (8) Repetition blindness. (9) Dissociation (in this case we see people apparently doing this whilst "channeling" or exhibiting "demonic possession" [epilepsy?]). (10) And so on. - Less Common Psychological Issues: Although these are much less common than the above (since the above can occur to everyone, whereas these are specific to only a subset), they are still possibilities that come to mind when I hear people I don't know talk about their strong beliefs or the strong beliefs of folks they know. That is, I cannot rule out these issues as contributing to others' beliefs.
(1) Schizophrenia (the biggest one in this list, as well as any other psychotic disorders that can contribute to paracusia, etc.). (2) Delirium tremens. (3) Lewy body dementia (via Parkinson's disease). (4) Alzheimer's disease. (5) Epilepsy. (6) Narcolepsy. (7) Fever induced hallucinations. (8) ETC.!
With so many possible competing sources of why we might believe something, you may wonder why we should believe anything! But we do. Our daily survival depends on believing potentially faulty information. Our confidence is increased whenever multiple sources of information converge on a single possibility (or a limited number of them). The more likely our survival depends on forming a good (accurate/true) belief, the more careful we are in considering the sources (usually).
On the other hand, when safety and survival are not directly affected by our particular choice of beliefs, THEN we seem to chigger into any old belief regardless of the evidence.
Ultimately, I think that people simply are unaware of how many ways we can be misled into trusting information used to support a particular belief (especially paranormal beliefs). In a way, then, I suspect that many people are enjoying the bliss of ignorance as they sustain their strong beliefs.
These are the cases that interest me from a psychological standpoint. These are the cases of strong belief that part of me yearns after, but a much larger part of me cannot accept; simply because I am haunted by all of these doubts.
Aren't you?
Tuesday, November 30, 2010
Can't Stand Idiots
Because this is clearly a last-minute entry, I will be making this brief - just to "jump through the hoop" of getting a blog written this month. Makes me wonder if I should continue to do this. Obviously I'm not making the most of this whole blog thingy. Probably I am just suffering from endofthesemesteritis. Having a whole week off just before the end of the semester isn't doing anyone's motivation levels much good.
Recently bought a few t-shirts from JCP that I like. One has the ghost-buster's logo on it which is nice because it is helping me to think about the group I am hoping to help put together with the Pittsburgh CFI. The aim will be to provide a rational counterpoint to the CRAP that gets into the newspapers from so-called "paranormal investigators" in the area. So if anyone is interested, let me know. ALSO, if you can think of a good name for the group, THAT would be helpful, too. I was thinking along the lines of SIPP (Scientific Investigations of Paranormal Phenomena) but I don't know if I really want the word "paranormal" in there. Anyway, let me know. Please.
The second shirt has an image of the cat-in-the hat character and says something like, "Trust me, I'm a doctor." The last one has big initials: CSI. Then beneath these it states, "Can't Stand Idiots." So that's my brief topic for this month's entry.
What I really cannot stand is when I am an idiot. In fact, the whole idea for this entry was "given" to me when I overheard a student mention her own seeming proclivity for self-idiocy. It reminded me of an early memory of being an idiot. This would be first grade.
R. L. Wood School (Haverhill Massachusetts) was where I was introduced to my potential for idiocy. It only contained grade one through four (if memory serves); and it is now closed for good I've heard. Anyway…
Every day we broke for lunch as soon as the hot-lunch delivery was completed. We filed out of the classroom door in the back of the room and walked past a table stacked with Styrofoam containers of steaming yet ultimately lukewarm foods covered with condensation. We were given a tray and a container then toward the end of the table, napkins, plastic-ware, paper straw, and a small carton of milk. Then we continued back through a doorway at the front of the classroom to sit at our desks and eat like adults.
Let me stop here and tell you how awesome those desks were! They were the chair-attached kind that had a slightly angled top that lifted to reveal a chamber underneath. Here we stored our small pot of paste (yum), box of over-sized crayons, a wooden ruler, a giant red eraser, some pencils, as well as graded papers (the ones that didn't earn the right to go home to the parents - yes, I mean the F's), and books about Dick and Jane. At the front edge of the desk was an old ink-well hole (mostly useless except that it was a good place to chuck bits of trash and what-nots during the day).
Ok, so I was an exceptionally shy child who tried not to move, talk, or otherwise become noticed. I had zero friends - unless you count the kid who chased me when I got off the bus every morning. He loved doing this in the winter because he'd catch up to me by grabbing my hood and yanking it backward and then use it to whip me around to the ground.
I also remember that there was a girl who really liked me and one day she walked over to me, grabbed me and gave me a big kiss on the cheek. I probably looked at her with a mixture of shock (that never happened to me before - or since, actually) mixed with horror (can you say COOTIES?!). I quickly wiped away the wet remains of her affections with my hand which made her burst into tears and run away crying, "He wiped off my kiss!"
Turns out that signaled the beginning of quite the dry spell for me… lasted at least a decade before I got any other girl to kiss me.
BEING that I was shy, that didn't mean I was immune to the attentions of the teacher (Mrs. Hansbury). She was always very generous with her foil stars and praise whenever a student did something amazingly wonderful… like pick up the chalk that had fallen from the tray, or let her know there was someone at the door, or raise a hand to answer a question.
It was during lunch one afternoon that I suddenly had a craving for some attention. I had eaten my meal and was sipping milk through my straw reflecting on how nice it would be to get a gold star on my forehead. The milk carton was resting on my desk next to my elbow which was supporting the hand I was using to balance my idiot head. Sipping through this soggy paper straw, I scanned the floor for errant chunks of chalk, or maybe an eraser to pick up. Nothing there. Then I remembered that noticing a visitor at the door was worth points, but nobody was outside the front door (most likely spot for visitors). But then again, maybe the person was outside the BACK door?! Nobody would even SEE that door window because we all were facing forwards! Maybe there's somebody there RIGHT NOW!
I twisted my head and body to the right so I could check. Now, turning one's head means that one's face goes too. Turning the face means eyes, nose, and mouth turn. Since the mouth was turning, that meant that the soggy straw was going for a ride, too. Because the straw was going, that meant the milk was going to try and tag along as well.
Just FYI, you should never invite milk cartons on short trips because of all the members of the traveling party mentioned above, they are the WORST at keeping up.
The milk carton just tipped over and started to chortle its contents onto my pants. I didn't want to make a big scene, so I just watched as the milk emptied out. It was supposed to be less than a pint of milk, but somehow I think the dairy had overfilled it because it was about a gallon or two that eventually made its way onto my clothes.
This may not seem like a big deal to anyone - but you have to remember that a little boy with a wet crotch in first grade doesn't exactly radiate maturity or mental wherewithal to either the teacher, or the little boy's merciless classmates. And no, there was nobody at the door.
For some reason lunch was a bad time for me in first grade at Wood School. I remember one day we had corn in our lunch cartons. I was innocently eating when I noticed the guy next to me placing a single kernel on his spoon, then bending the spoon back and then releasing it at another kid a few seats over.
I watched as it seemed to rocket across the room like it was shot from a gun. That was amazing!
Never in my experience had I ever come across anything like this. The lad was a genius to invent such a device! I watched him do it again and decided it was time to see if I could recreate this agricultural weaponry on my own. I held my spoon just so… Looking over at my neighbor to see if I'd set it up correctly. Then I plopped a chunk of corn into the bowl of the spoon. Yes, mine seemed to look about like his. Now let's see, you simply push down the edge of the spoon? As I did so, I looked over to see if it was really that simple… Yes, it… WHOOPS! The weapon fired before I was ready! I hadn't had a chance to aim it anywhere. Actually, to be honest, I don't think I'd even planned on firing the weapon… I just wanted to see if I could set it up!
I'd been holding the spoon-weapon so that it was facing the front of the room. Watching in horror, the little yellow projectile sailed beautifully upward toward the front of the classroom following a mathematically perfect arc! Glancing ahead at its likely target, I saw the lunch monitor. She was standing up front, arms folded in a military stance while scanning the desks for unruly behavior. She never saw it coming. The corn kernel bounced exactly off the tip of her nose perfectly. If I'd been aiming for it, I'd have missed her completely.
It was a very light morsel of food, so the resulting head bounce she gave had to be pure reflex. She had merely been startled - not physically wounded in ANY way. Nonetheless, despite the benign nature of the event, she stomped to the middle of the classroom demanding to know, "Who did that?!"
As you know, children, especially first graders, are a socially cohesive bunch. They stick together in solidarity. So as a unit, every single child in the classroom (and I think even some who happened to be passing by in the hall) pointed their finger at me and yelled, "HE DID IT!"
The monitor was clearly shocked and made me feel even worse by saying, Friday, October 29, 2010
Tums, or Rolaids, or Whatever...
My first full time job (40-hour week) was at a company called Raytheon (the very plant pictured above). I was hired as a clerk. It was the beginning of the year as I had recently failed out of college after a miserable first semester in the pre-med program at my state university. My highest grade was, I think, a "C" in my psychology course - calculus, physiology, chemistry, and physics didn't fare so well. (My misguided plan was to eventually become a psychiatrist.) Orientation and registration at the university had been a whirlwind and I was "advised" to take all these classes merely because they fit into a weekly schedule (two additional slots were needed for chemistry and physiology labs). Anyway, that experience was, as they say, an epic fail.Despite the "epic fail," I admit to having been pretty relieved. I hated college. My only motivation for even attending college in the first place was that everyone had expected me to go. To make things worse, near the end of the semester my girlfriend had dumped me (pre-email days = letter). Well actually, to be accurate, she'd dumped me LONG before then, it was just that she didn't let me know until about this time. Anyway, just after the holidays, an official letter arrived inviting me not return to school. Once the family shock and disappointment in me waned, I was able to settle into a pretty happy contentment. The future and all its untapped opportunities lay before me!
My dad already worked at Raytheon, so that probably helped to get me that clerk position. Maybe, maybe not. But I recall the human resources lady doing my entry interview and finishing up with, "Be sure that you do a good job, Stephen." To which I sincerely and honestly replied, "I'll do my best." Apparently that wasn't a satisfactory response as she got a little huffy and said, "I expect that you will do better than that!"
Being young and accustomed to submitting to authority (i.e., anyone older than me), I didn't "talk back" or anything, but I did leave with an uncomfortable feeling that I'd screwed something up, AND that the woman I'd just spoken to was a blazing idiot. How can I do better than my best? Was I supposed to have LIED and said I'd give 110% or something? Cripes, it's impossible to do either! Although I didn't recognize it at the time, this was the first little hairline crack in my perfect post-college eggshell bubble I was trying to settle into.
Other fractures to my world were soon to follow (all of which finally got me the proper motivation to go to college again). Basically, my mind was too active for the job I was placed into. Exceptional pay and benefits are not enough to compensate for sitting nine hours a day (one for lunch) doing a stupid, inane, job. My job was to keep files on the parts that were stored in a cage next to my open-floor office and submit reorder requests when appropriate. That's it. It was a position that would be easily replaced by a computer program if anyone wanted to spend four hours to write it.
All the records were on stiff manila cards filed in rows of cabinets. Reaching into these day after day gave me endless paper cuts and bright red and bloody cuticles. I could finish my work in less than six hours. So I had to learn to take my time or I'd be bored silly looking for stuff to do.
Anyway, two embarrassing things happened to me on this job. I will tell you about the lesser of the two. The other one I still haven't fully recovered from yet.
The office area that I worked in contained about six or so desks. My desk was next to an old World War II vet's desk. He was in a wheelchair and had been a paratrooper during the war. Then there was the desk my boss (Sal) used. Then behind me were desks for the three ladies to work at (no idea what their jobs were). I only remember two of their names, Mona and Vickie. Let's call the other one, Sheila. Anyway, I flirted madly with Sheila and Vickie who were both married, but flirted and teased with me as good as I gave. Anyway, one day Sheila wasn't feeling well. She complained that her stomach was bothering her. Well, I told her to go to the nurse's office. You have to understand that this Raytheon was (is) HUGE. People got around on little carts that looked like motorized skateboards as well as golf carts. There was an actual little hospital area in there that had a nurse 24-7 and probably a doctor for some set times.
Ok, so I told her simply to go see the nurse and get some Tums or Rolaids or something. Amazingly, she said, "No way!" You see, she was afraid of hospitals and any of the related trappings thereof. I'd never met someone with such a strange thing to be afraid of, so naturally, I teased the crap out of her about it. That didn't last long because it isn't really much fun to tease people who are sick. They just don't give very good reactions, nor do they play back very well (or very nicely). She wouldn't smile whatsoever. So I gave up and went -slowly- back to my work.
After a while of listening to her little sighs and uncomfortable chair shuffle noises, I started feeling a little guilty which then turned to a little bit of sympathy. Maybe I could do something to cheer her up? So, I asked if she'd be willing to got to the nurse's office if I went with her?
No.
That turned into me suggesting that we could go and she would brief me on her symptoms and I would pretend it was MY tummy ache? She wouldn't have to say anything, and I would just sneak her the Tums or Rolaids or whatever when I got them.
No.
It wasn't much of a stretch to finally just say that I would go myself and get her something and bring it back.
Yes!
Fine. I had plenty of free time anyway. We briefed Sal about the plan so I could get permission to leave. He gave us a crooked look, but said fine-whatever. Off I went on my 15 minute walk to the nurse's station. My position was too lowly to allow the use of a motorized sled. I had to hike the full distance despite my tummy ache. It was actually a good thing to walk because I needed to get into character. How should I walk in? Holding my stomach while barely dragging myself in? No, don't over-act, Steve. What should I say? Should I try to cry? No, again, I had to remind myself not to over play the role.
I finally got there and the place was deserted. It looked like a chunk of a hospital plunked into the middle of a factory. After a bit, the nurse showed up and was very professional looking (white dress and hat and everything). This intimidated me a bit. I almost chickened out because I thought for sure she would know I was fibbing about my tummy pains. So I had to be sure to sell it. Holding my belly and bending a bit at the waist, I explained the terrible pain and how I knew everything would be ok if I could just have some Tums or Rolaids or something.
She escorted me to a small examination room and checked me out (blood pressure, etc.) and asked how long it had been hurting. Only this morning. Really, I think I just had a bad bit of breakfast. Tums… Rolaids, whatever you have, then I'll go. Please, I really have to get back to work, I barely have enough time to finish it all.
The nurse left me in the little examination room for a bit. Just enough time for me to start to feel a little guilty - maybe she knew I was fibbing. She'd gotten all my information, name, what department I worked in, the name of my boss. Gulp. Maybe she was talking on the phone reporting me right now! I was on the verge of sneaking out, but she already knew who I was and exactly where I worked, so I couldn't really get away.
When I had originally volunteered for this mission, I'd felt like a hero: A secret agent off to scam the "enemy" out of needed medical supplies. But now! Right now I was feeling like a naughty little boy who was waiting outside of the principal's office for my parents to show up so we could all talk about what a perfect criminal I was going to turn out to be.
Eventually she returned with a little paper cup in her hand! Yay! Success! The tablets must be in that little cup! My spirits soared a bit because I wasn't in trouble! I could get back into my spy fantasy!
Then the other hand came up with a very medicinal-looking bottle. Umm…?!
She poured from this bottle a murky watery greenish swampy juice. It plopped and dribbled from the mouth of this ominous brown bottle to fill the cup about a third of the way up. I literally had stopped breathing for the moment in order to let the consequences of my lies finally catch up with me.
So… umm, what is that?
It's called Tincture of Belladonna.
I was a college flunky, but I knew that Belladonna was the less scary term for Deadly Nightshade, a very toxic (extremely poisonous, hence the name) plant. As absurd as it may have been, I thought that I had actually been caught out in my lies and the company was going to kill me; make an example of me. I could keep my spy fantasy because I was like a spy about to be defeated unexpectedly by a beautiful woman (anyone get the joke there?).
Seeing my trepidation, the nurse assured me that it was a TINCTURE of belladonna. Not strong enough to poison me. Just enough to numb the tummy. Give me some relief to the obvious discomfort I was in. So, go ahead and drink it up! You'll feel better in no time!
Actually, I just wanted some Tums… or Rolaids… or something like that.
This is something like that, only better. Go ahead, drink.
Umm….
DRINK.
ok…. Gulp. Choke. Gag. Thanks… Gotta go back to work… feel better already… thanks… cough… see ya…
I staggered back to my work station. I have no memory of the walk back. Just a memory of leaving the nurse's station then next arriving back at my work area. I felt really sick. The partially strained swamp juice I'd allowed to drop into my stomach was having the exact opposite effect than described. Of course, I never had a tummy ache to begin with.
I went straight to my desk and Sheila asked where the Tums or Rolaids or whatever was. I explained that the nurse had made me drink the whatever. That was the only thing that made her smile that day. Actually, I don't remember that she actually smiled. It was more like she was laughing hysterically the rest of the day along with everyone else in the area she could tell it to. I had inadvertently made her feel better even in my failure to secure Tums or Rolaids, or whatever.
For the rest of my employ, there would be occasional mysterious deliveries of Tums or Rolaids to my desk when I wasn't looking. Nice.
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